Works! – A Tribute

When serendipity strikes, your life can change forever… My life changed 10 years ago

I met Carol Ann Ince on on January 22nd, 2007, when she shot me a note to say hi. I had mentioned in my profile that I had been an actor in a travelling theatre troop for a few years and that my favorite book at the time was Atlas Shrugged. She was about 100 pages into this massive, 1060 page tome when she saw my profile and reached out to me on that chilly Minnesota day. 


I was just going to wink at you, but decided since I am on page 100 of my first time through Atlas Shrugged, that fate was telling me to take that extra step. I’m still trying to figure out “Who is John Galt?” so don’t tell me. 🙂

I actually went to a theater school in St. louis – Webster University. Ever heard of it? I was a media major, but shared the dorm with drama students from all over the country. Very interesting 4 years.

So outside of Ayn Rand, who are some of your other favorite authors? How about movies? I think I am a pretty good acting connoisseur. I one got in trouble with a date because as we were leaving our screening of “Pure Country”, I made the mistake of announcing my opinion that Leslie Ann Warren couldn’t act her way out of a paper bag. Was I that far off??

Anyway, I would love to hear from you in the future. Drop me a note. 🙂


Nice! She sounded fun and I was intrigued. I had had a few dates through by this time, but though they didn’t strike home for me, maybe this “CA” was a winner?

I attempted to connect with my inner-cool, typed up what I wished would be a witty reply and hoped for the best…

Hi CA,

Ok, well you’ve got my attention! lol….. From the sounds of your emai & profile, we’ve got quite a lot in common. 🙂 I haven’t heard of Webster University, but it seems like fun.

Yes, I do have a few authors I can dig… Mary Stewart, Frank Herbert, Margaret Weis & Tracy Hickman, Douglas Adams… etc.

I’m way too eclectic in taste, and movies range from The Princess Bride and The Matrix, to any Monty Python flik… So yes indeed, I can say my geek-ness is showing. GOOD acting is a big thing for me also and my ideal actors would include Kenneth Branaugh, Audrey Hepburn, Gary Oldman, Jeremy Irons, Helen Mirren, James Dean, ad nauseam 😉

As far as Leslie Ann Warren, I can’t call that one. I just haven’t paid enough attention…. So perhaps I’ll look into it while I hope you reply back? You seem way too interesting to hope otherwise.


I hit SEND and face-palmed… realizing I had just said “HOPE” like 3 times in the last part of my reply. Oh well, if she’s a match for me, that will only be a minor annoyance and not a deal-breaker. Hey, it’s done, so fugetaboutit!

Fortunately for me, it was well received. As it turns out, she also loved Monty Python and had a gold-leafed, leather-bound copy of the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy trilogy, by Douglas Adams. Score! She didn’t earn mere bonus points, but STOCK OPTIONS!

After our first day the following Monday, I found out that before contacting me, she had contacted another dude from who had also been reading Atlas Shrugged and had sounded like a good match by his profile. He was a nice enough guy, but after reading a couple written replies to her, they just didn’t match the life and fun of his profile, so that was that… 

Here’s where it gets interesting…

I had bought a copy of Atlas Shrugged for my buddy Ryan a few weeks before all this and he just happened to have added to his profile that he was currently reading AS. He had known he wasn’t a strength of his when he signed up, so he had asked me to help a brother out by writing it for him. So, I wrote it for him.

As I’m sure you’ve figured out by now… Yes! We discovered after that first date that the universe works in strange ways, and my best buddy Ryan was the other dude she contacted before me. Go figure!! 

Needless to say, we hit it off and fell in love… whispering a silent thank you to for helping us find eachother in this large, but scarily-small world we call home. 

Four years later, on January 15th, 2011, I married this amazing woman. She embodies the best parts of Maryann and Ginger, with the brains of the Professor. I am truly a lucky man.

This is written as tribute to you, Carol Ann… Thank you for being all that you are and all that you will be. These years have gone by so fast but have given me so much to be grateful for. Thank you for loving me in return and thank you for creating our awesome son Corby. Thank you for your warmth, kindness and for calling out my BS. You’re the greatest and I love you.

Best Day


Happy anniversary baby!





The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it’s yours.”
– Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged



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